Stay your sorry: sometimes it’s best to just keep that apology to yourself.

We are never so optimistic as we are on the first days of a new year. We open a new calendar and become committed to new habits, new routines, and a clean slate. Some people declare that they are going to get around to finishing that huge oil painting of Lake Erie. Others vow to get rid of everything in their house that does not bring them joy.

Then there are those who decide that this is the year they are going to seek out people they have wronged, and finally make amends. This is a nice impulse, but depending on what someone is apologizing for, it can end up doing more harm than good.

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